Published on December 2nd, 2015 | by THC0
9 Signs You’re Wasting Your Life But Can’t Admit It
We all waste time, it’s true. Wasting time can be a sort of therapy for a hectic life. But how do we know if we’re wasting our lives? It’s a subtle thing to be sure. You’re doing what you normally do, but is it really living the full life you want? Here are some signs that might help you admit that you’ve been wasting your life. How do I know? Because I’ve been through each of them myself.
1. You waste time doing things you shouldn’t be.
You’ve had a long day at work. You get home, kick your shoes off, start dinner, and just want to unwind. What do you do from here? Turn on some TV? Maybe play some video games? Cool! But where are you three hours later? Are you still parked in front of the TV? Controller still in your hand? Dinner crusting itself onto plates in the sink? Yeah, I’ve been there before. But you know what I realized over time? There’s a big world out there ready for me to experience it.
When I decided to stop wasting so much time on things I shouldn’t be wasting time on, I discovered new hiking trails, found new bars, made new friends, found the love of my life, and I haven’t looked back at my old life since. But you know the best part? If I don’t feel like going out and being the best person I can be, I can still kick back and watch some television if I want. Because I’m an adult and I run my own life, dammit.
2. You complain a lot.
Ah the complaints. Work sucks. Traffic sucks. My head hurts. I don’t know what to eat. Gossip gossip gossip. Complaining about everything is a pretty strong sign that you’re just not happy with what you’re doing. Complaining is an easy way to make it feel like you’ve gotten it off your chest, but we’re most likely to complain about things we believe are out of our control. The next time you start complaining about something, think about what you can do to fix that situation for yourself.
3. You don’t take the time to feed your mind.
I’m not exactly saying that you should be on the cutting edge of everything happening in the world, but take some time to give your brain a little bit of food. Learn a word in a new language. Read a book for fun. Sign up for a word-of-the-day email newsletter. Read a random wikipedia article every day. Just keep your brain stimulated and active.
4. You feel negatively about your life.
This one’s pretty clear, and it ties in with complaining. If you don’t like the person you see in the mirror, if you don’t like your job, if you’re unhappy with your marriage, if you hate where you live, CHANGE IT.
5. Things are just uninspiring for you.
I’m not saying you need to feel inspired every minute of the day, but if you feel dull and uninspired overall, it may be an indication that you’re not living fully in some way. As Charles Bukowski once wrote:
Find what you love and let it kill you.
Let it drain you of your all.
Let it cling onto your back and weigh you down into eventual nothingness.
Let it kill you and let it devour your remains.
For all things will kill you, both slowly and fastly,
but it’s much better to be killed by a lover.”
6. You have no goals or plans for the future.
Live isn’t just about moving forward and making progress, but especially if you’re young and feeling restless, not having goals can negatively impact your spirit overall. Make some small goals for yourself. Then maybe make some big goals for yourself. Figure out what it is exactly that you want to do.
7. The people around you don’t challenge you or help you grow.
It’s not the responsibility of your friends to push you harder and help you discover your true self, but it doesn’t hurt to have a few people in your life that match the intensity you’d like to achieve.
8. You spend money on things that don’t really matter that much.
Are you constantly spending money on things that don’t really matter all that much? New video games, new TVs, new cars, new computers, new everything? It could be that you just like new stuff I guess, but for me, it’s always been an indication that I’m trying to find fulfillment through things.
9. You don’t let yourself sleep enough.
This was always the worst for me. I’d stay up so late doing some variation of #1 because I didn’t want to get up and do it all over again. I’d feel like crap, get home from work, not want to go out and experience the world, and pretty much lurch my way through the remainder of this list. But I broke myself of it. The question is, will you?